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STARTING DOWN THE TRACKS OF HUMANITY’S RESTITUTION

Wednesday, December 2nd, 2009

Since the two impediments to peace and love are fear and ignorance, we can safely say that, “It’s the Fear, Stupid.”

What we need to recognize to get started on the journey to global recovery.

My friend, James, stopped by the coffee house today (my office away from home-office–Peet’s café in San Anselmo, CA) and confirmed what I had suspected are the biggest impediments to a successful and healthy society…

I had shared with him this passage from Bill Bradley’s’ book, The New American Story where Bill says, “The only things that can stop us are fear, ignorance, self-centeredness, and greed.” James’ top two picks of the week for the main villains dragging humanity around in the mire of disease, destruction and suffering were fear and ignorance.

So how does one or how do we, as a collective, diffuse the fear and educate the ignorant, especially when the ignorant are too frightened to be educated or to ignorant to know that they are run by fear?

This is not to take anything away from all our best efforts to actually solve the problems that are the result of fear, ignorance, self-centeredness, and greed. But let’s face it, until we find ways to reduce the toxicity contained in these human attitudes, (not to mention our addiction to them) we will always be putting out the fires they’ve initiated.

Now these fires have their upside, to be sure…they keep us on our creative toes, adaptive, and compassionate, but really, how much fear, ignorance, self-interest and greed do we really need to develop these valuable traits that empower us to succesfully engage to life’s challenges? I could do with less, couldn’t you?

Now, of course it isn’t “they” (these attitudes), but “us” (these humans) that are at both cause and effect here, but it is these un-examined impulses operating through us that are wreaking havoc on the human/bio/atmospheric systems. So, if we really want to arrest the forces that are responsible for dis-equality, environmental degradation, war, alienation, obscene deficits, disease, people who are late, insensitive, lazy, irresponsible… “stupid and ignorant”, etc. (fill in the blank), then we must find a way to address the raw phenomena of fear and ignorance…and their first cousins, greed and self-centeredness.

Now, the last time we checked, we found humanity hanging on the precipice of some serious global shit. How can we, members of the human race, interface with humanity to “head it off at the ‘past”? How can we, the hero, if not save the day, at least save some of the future days so that posterity won’t have to deal with the troublesome and smelly legacy of our fear and ignorance.

Let’s start by addressing and attending to the fear that drives…well…me…and to become willing to admit, at least as a starting point, that ‘I don’t know all there is to know,” and…whoa!…apparently, I’m on my way (Watch out transformation, here I come…buckle up, Errol). Yes, until each of us recognizes the degree that we operate out of fear and that what we “know” is miniscule in the face of what we don’t know, we won’t initiate the degree and quality of change the systems requires to “right itself.”

For better or worse, it is calamity that drives most of us to that recognition. Do we need to wait for the onslaught of pain and degradation to engage the process or can we roll up our sleeves, divest ourselves of pretentions, and get to work being ruthlessly honest with ourselves and face our ignorance and fear and apply ourselves to their respective diminish-ment?

So how about we begin the journey by dis-ignorant-ing ourselves of the tacit assumption that we are not driven by fear? That fear will drive us into the mistaken notion that something of the finite, which we have made an absolute in our own minds, will save us. (It can be money, or Allah, or Jesus, or winning people’s approval or the right lover, the cheapest price, anything really…some “idol” that we were warned should not be put before the All-Oneness of Infinity, some addiction that we perpetuate to hold on to our dear delimited life…so that we can feel safe and alive. We attempt to make something finite fulfill the role of the absolute. Talk about ignorant…no wonder we’re so scared.

Indeed, many of us, much of the time, grasp on to some tightly held perspective to ward off the dangers of the unknown (just beyond our self-definition) which is eager to gobble us up and leave no clue of our negligible existence behind. And thus we remain frightened, ignorant and dominated by self-interest and greed.

So there you have it…next blog…what to do? Or more precisely, how can we relate to ourselves and each other in such a way as to liberate and act upon our highest wisdom and deepest levels of compassion so that fear and ignorance don’t so effectively dominate our minds, hearts and wills?

“To fear or not to fear”…that seems to be…if not the question… the issue.

Check out the doable response to this quagmire in my next blogs.

Think on’t!

WHAT’S WRONG…AT THE VERY CORE OF IT ALL?

Friday, November 6th, 2009

AND HOW DO YOU FIX IT?

I asked myself the question…is there a specific, even single impetus for the mass amount of dysfunctionality experienced by humankind?

“Yes,” came the reply from the digitized burning bush, “Just type in the following letters in this particular sequence (not case sensitive) and you’ll have your answer.”

“Okay.”

“B-E-T-R-A-W-A-L”

“Well, when you put it like that…” was my almost first response when the “AWAL” at the end of the word jumped out at me. Then the digitized burning bush continued, anticipating my next, inevitable question…

“Here’s how it works.”

“It is the accumulated experience of life not responding to you the ways you’d like or expect it to, and, depending on the severity or the quantities of the pain, you will tend to respond to these betrayals with one of or a combination of the following five reaction states: ANGER, CYNICISM, DENIAL, SELF-BETRAYAL, PARANOIA, as articulated by James Hillman in his definitive essay on “Betrayal.”

“Eventually these attitudes become chronic orientations to life…your default template basic judgment screen, as it were, through which you filter all that life sends your way. (And you’re not limited to one…oh, no, they work better in combination, and if they’re used effectively, they will deprive you of the primary rights of your existence. (oh, that Pesky ol’ existence again)… which colors all your perceptions and in consequence of that, all your decisions…from which your life experience evolves…and which predictably determines your “Next.”

“You see, when your “Next” triggers pain and resistance to it, that’s what we’re calling, “Betrayal.” It happens from the git-go…being thrust out of a very pleasant watery environment into one in which you’re going to have to work for a living. Whoa!

But wait…there’s more…you are thrust out into circumstances that are demanding, confusing, frustrating, etc. (you fill in your word that denotes “expletive-ing) and that you’re sure you… did not order.

“Then you go to one of the default responses, or you mix and match as needed.

Question: Your preferred response to betrawal?
A. Anger

B. Cynicism

C. Denial

D. Self-betrayal

E. Paranoia

F. All of the above

G. A unique mixture of all of the above depending on what triggers the memory of the pain of betrayal.

“So… it’s kind of like you create this swimming pool and you fill it with one of the above, (anger, denial, cynicism, self-betrayal, paranoia). Basically, you swim around in this stuff, breathing it and looking out at life through the distorted picture that it necessarily gives you. That gooey mixture becomes the interface between you and life.

“As the irritant in the oyster triggers the creation of a pearl, the one of great price perhaps, the irritance of betrawal creates the equivalent of the chaos of cancer cells trying their best to not get with the program.

“Since we swim about in this mental slush (your own patented combo of anger, denial, cynicism, self-betrayal, paranoia du jour) it will ultimately deprive you of innocent point of view and you could very well end up living a soul-less life.

(While you can’t really completely obliterate your soul, you certainly can handicap it, and deprive it of your awareness…not realizing that your awareness of your soul and it’s awareness of you provide the equivalent of the ever-spontaneous-power-generating system of Being otherwise called, “Life.”

So, there you have it. What’s to be done?

Three R’s:

  • Re-cognize: Start by learning to catch yourself in the act
  • Re-frame: Pick out a point of view that you’d like to have even though you cannot justify in any way having that point of view…(go to our web site, ww.betterpointsofview.com aka www.sexmoneygod.com for options)
  • Re-solve: Make a commitment to yourself to live your life as if this “superior” (or at least preferable) point of view IS valid for YOU, and keep choosing/making up your life according to that perspective (practice, perservere, ask for support…from me for instance)

Oh, and by the way…leave your expectations at the door of the next… “Next.”